Life is short, and the mere presence of fate as an unstoppable force pulling strings is uncertain. Time and space are fabrications of humanity, as are careers, education, social stigma, and the borders we travel. Love, however, is felt with the soul and unique to each individual. Love is REAL. Love should always trump the creations of humanity throughout life, and love is the only comfort we seek in the end.
The comfort of fate assures many of us that we’re not faced with decision, when most certainly we are. Fate assures us that factors such as time and space govern love. Don’t allow this to happen. Follow your heart Trev, wherever it takes you, because it produces the only decisions that one can never regret because the reasoning is REAL. Never be fooled that the force which is least visible is least important.

I’ve posted this anonymously because I think it’s important for you to consider the words rather than the source.

A while ago you commended me for being able to open myself on my blog and pour my soul and heart there. I must do the same for you now. It’s great that you are able to ask the tough questions to the broader audience that you reach on your blog.

Now, on to the easing of the relentless emotional curiosity. I once, too, lost someone to distance. When he was about to leave, we both said “let’s just enjoy the moment for what it is”. It didn’t help, but it kept the both of us sane.

I’ll suggest what I did – just enjoy being in the “now”. I know it sounds childish, I know it sounds somewhat self-absorbed. But it works, and the most important thing is – no matter how many questions you ask yourself, you will only be able to recognize the answer, not when the answer is right in front of you, but when you are able to accept the answer.

Sometimes, the answer is, as I said, right in front of us (e.g. we have already thought out all the possibilities and have chosen one right path for us) but we “can’t see it” because we don’t WANT to see it. I am not saying that’s your case, but it may be one possibility.

Best of luck.

I’m totally going to go live on a boat….